Life on Codependency

Codependent people always "think" they have because their partners are not as they need. Generally lurking control the lives and behavior of their partners primarily. Although this attitude is repeated with the children, siblings, parents, but here we will talk specifically lavida love.

In a sense, even if they are not considered so, their behaviors are impregnated:

- Handling: they want their partners, have healthier behaviors, ie stop smoking, drinking, working, eating, or they understand that the concern is for the sake of your partner.

- Hostility: always saying the wrong time, ie, they become aggressive and violent because their partner does not change their behavior as they need.

- Generators of guilt: how the couple does not stop addictive behavior, then the codependent, generates in others, mainly in the couple, guilt difficult to tolerate.

- Drivers: lurking in hiding food, pills, alcohol, that does not work so there are no compulsive shopping, anyway. They are a torment to those suffering from compulsive behavior or addiction.

Clearly, codependent love their partners, and want the best for them, their relationship and life. The problem is that the relationship becomes a situation of tension and anger. The other feels controlled, manipulated, some free to act and also feel they are not about girls or little girls for their partners to tell them what they have or not to do.

This model of codependent relationship becomes a torture for both members of the couple. Codependents are always up to rescue the love of his life. Their bond is shown in the need to care, if needed. But the couple, which is subject to a codependent, you feel totally suffocated, because in reality, do not want to leave your behavior or change it at all and appear unconcerned, address the excessive preoccupation of the codependent.

It's as if there was an agreement between hidden:

"You worry about me, while I continue with my conduct, and one who cares enough"

So codependent people, suffer from an excess of responsibility for the conduct of others, especially your partner, are so focused on the lives of others, of that great love that they forget that they are unable to take care of themselves, their problems and their life. they depend to a large dependence measures listed partners.

People become codependent, initially, complacent, then desperate, because their intention is to change the lives and direction of your partner and your relationship. This is a losing battle, your partner will change only when he or she decides there is no other alternative solution.

Yes you are very aware of your partner's behavior, it does what it does bother you, they're willing to do anything for your partner to change, you're probably living in the damn codependency. If you have identified in these qualities, perhaps, require, or treatment in mild wear of a specialist or attend support groups.

You need to take charge of you, and then to take charge of others. There is no alternative.

I'd love to write and to know your opinion. But you're in love and suffer, surely, require rethinking your personal life and the way you engage your relationships.

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