Why do your children do not obey and how to cope

There must be a reason to explain why some parents get children to obey their words while others are frustrated in their peaceful efforts.

In other words, if two children are the same age and a similar level of understanding, and their parents give them a similar order, why do you obey and the other does the opposite?

Certainly not due to "bad luck" for parents to have a disobedient child, as they listen. In fact there are many factors that can contribute to a child disobeys an order. This list 5 common reasons:

1. The order is confusing .- Have you told your daughter, "Do not you dare eat the soap," and after a few minutes are giving you a taste. The only reason could be that the sentence was very confusing. Try these suggestions or ignore changed to "The soap we use it only to wash our hands"

2. You have requested an impossible .- Perhaps you do not look it, but for your 4 years may be impossible to finish all the soup you eat when you are going through a period of poor appetite. Not that I want to obey, it is simply not hungry. Try to put less at the plate and ask "tell me if you want more."

3. Not the best time .- You are visiting your sister and your 5 year old girl is immersed in the game with his older cousin. Suddenly, you enter the room and say "get your shoes that we're leaving". Of course you will not get a positive response, but again this has a solution. About 20 minutes before quitting time, announce to your daughter and her cousin are about to leave. Better yet, muéstales time on the clock to have a tangible idea of ​​what it is.

4. No connection .- If you are a parent surely know how to recognize those moments when there is a connection with your children: There is a relaxed, look in the eyes, laugh at the same things, and feel good. By contrast, when there has been a time of separation either physical or emotional (angry about something that you broke, for example), the contact is distant and elusive. Think of two lovers in the first case, and two strangers in the second.

Before placing an order it is important to reestablish the connection getting close passively enganchándote in its activity, putting at their level and making lots of eye contact. This may take a few seconds but in the end you save more time and bad times.

5. Scientist have a son .- All children I know are more scientists than any adult. They make observations and test hypotheses about the things and events around them to reach conclusions on their operation. In this line of scientific research may one day decide to "disobey" or answer "NO", as part of their evidence. In that case we must accept with maturity, patience and a bit of sportsmanship. Soon come to the conclusion that the same love and respect, and will terminate the experiment.

Obviously there are many reasons for disobeying such as children and parents in the world. But do not worry! It is possible that these reasons have more to do with how (how, where, when ...), with the background. That is, children disobey us even though we love. Continue to love even though we disobey.

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